The dog does not obey or "Who is the boss in the house ?"

Novice dog owners, especially women, often face the problem of dominant qualities in the pet. Outwardly, this looks like a manifestation of the fact that the dog does not obey. Dog dominance has many signs and manifestations. It doesn't matter which of them affected you. Almost all problems of canine disobedience are solved in the same way.

Joy in the house

The decision has been made, the exciting stage of acquisition has passed, and now your new friend crosses the threshold of his now home. Well, or you carry it on handles.

At first, no problems are visible, there is no reason for concern. The owners adapt to the new tenant no less than he adapts to them. And if it is also a puppy - a cute, amusing creature, infinitely charming and already very beloved, then here it is completely sheer forgiveness.

What problems? Yes, no problem. Well, I chewed on my boot. He's small. He has a bone ... But, probably, it is not tasty for him. Does he bite your hands? Yes, what are those bites? The teeth are tiny! Growling over a bowl? Oh, this is so funny! Etc.

Adult dogs are taken with great care, but in this case, mistakes are not excluded. People may not understand all the complexities of adapting a new family member.

Not everything is so perfect

The puppy grows up, the dog from the shelter gets used to the new environment and troubles begin. Chewing on the arm of the chair! Barks at passers-by! Runs after cyclists! Climbs onto a leather sofa! Offending the cat! Bites !!! Well, in general, the dog does not obey! Absolutely!

And what do most owners do?


Nothing at all. They get upset and endure. And only after some time, when the endurance is already slipping, and the nerves suddenly remind of their existence, people begin to try to somehow solve the problem. Beginning! Try! Somehow! ..

Of course, few people succeed. Those who initially have knowledge of the topic, or just a natural sense of the right behavior with a dog, usually do not face these difficulties. So what to do then?

Great psychologists

Surely, you have already fully experienced for yourself what dogs are subtle and sensitive psychologists, what excellent opportunists and manipulators! Are you sad, or sick, or, conversely, joyfully excited, or, perhaps, are calm and good-natured and ready to play ... At any second they know exactly what state you are in and what they can count on.

With some kind of special, doggy, mind they all understand this. Or they feel as yet unknown receptors of the emotional field.

Moreover, for each family member in their heads there is a separate "daddy" with many "files". Someone when gets up, comes home from work, who loves what, who treats with what, who is more likely to beg for a “tasty treat”, and from whom - a game.

Their intelligence cannot be underestimated!


And what is the conclusion from all this? Simple: They know when you are unsure of yourself.

When you say, “Leave me alone! You’ve already had enough, ”the dog knows that you actually like to pamper him and want to treat him more. And he sits, patiently waits, looking into his eyes and wagging his tail.

When you portray indignation: “Now get off the couch!”, The dog knows that you have not yet decided what is most important for you: to keep the upholstery or to feel your beloved warm side next to it.

When you, frowning, reprimand her on the street: "Well-bred dogs do not bark at cyclists," the dog knows what you really think (have gone away here, do not walk calmly).



Your first task: agree with yourself first. Be honest. Develop a clear and consistent position on all issues that concern the dog. And the same for all family members. And if you require something from your pet, be one hundred percent sure that you really need it. Or ... don't ask! Let it lie on the couch! And God is with her, with that upholstery ...


Eh, if only the upholstery ... One of the most dangerous manifestations of dominance is aggression. You already know that dogs are gregarious creatures. Your family for an animal is a pack. And in the groups of their wild ancestors, a strict hierarchy reigns: everyone is placed on the "shelves", from the leader to the last, most frail puppy. And if something of the above has taken place in your life together, then the status of a respected leader is unlikely to belong to you.

Roles in the flock are assigned automatically. The title of senior goes to the strongest, most powerful, strong-willed and decisive. Without any desire on the part of the dog (I repeat - automatically!), If all members of the "pack" in one form or another show weakness, the burden of government falls on his furry shoulders. That is, by your behavior you yourself assigned the title of "king of the apartment" to the dog.


Your second challenge: remember who you are. With complete and absolute, with overwhelming (!) Confidence, you should feel like you are in charge. Not. Don't understand. To understand, you already understand this. Just feel it! Penetrate! Your desire is not just the law of an apartment. It is the law of nature! In principle, it cannot but be fulfilled. This is impossible! Every speck of dust in this apartment is yours. The entire territory, up to the last corner in the closet, is yours. Even your pet's ears, claws and tail are also yours! If it occurs to you to cut or clean something there, you have every ... every right to do so! You have to be (!) Confident, and not pretend to be confident.

If you manage to absorb this attitude, and at least seventy percent show it in behavior, you will have a quiet, peaceful, calm and very obedient dog.

It will take her some time to be surprised to realize the change and change her habits. But, believe me, it is very insignificant. "Don't underestimate their intelligence."


Just don't get aggressive yourself. Don't confuse self-esteem, leadership with anger or annoyance! Don't yell at the dog! Don't hit her !!!

Feel the nuances. If necessary, your tone should go from kind and calm to strict. Strict! Not evil. The harsh tone is an instrument, the result of the work of the vocal cords. And anger is a feeling, a negative emotion. Anger, resentment, hot temper - will not help you to cope with the task in any way.

Plus, it's not fair. After all, the behavior of an animal is 99.9% a product of your communication with it. Think about it.

Is it humane?

“I cannot be strict. Train, order, forbid. And also punish! Horror. It's not humane! " One often hears such judgments.

To try to convince those who agree with such statements, we present a very likely chain of cause and effect. Each next point is a consequence of the previous one:

  1. Adoration.
  2. Permissiveness (and narcissism: I am so humane!).
  3. The dog is poorly educated.
  4. Uncontrollable behavior.
  5. The dog bit the neighbor.
  6. Court. Fine. A warning.
  7. Anger, irritation. Resentment against a neighbor. Resentment towards the dog.
  8. Stress. Perplexity. Confusion. Less attention to the dog.
  9. Aggravated behavior problems.
  10. Another dog's misconduct, which can lead to raising the question of euthanasia ...

Of course, this scenario is the saddest. But isn't it real?

Would it be much better if, at each point, the severity of the problem was slightly reduced? Why turn a blind eye to the fact that the dog does not obey? Why continue to endure the "small" outrages of your would-be leader? For reasons of a distorted understanding of humanity?

Become a leader

Let's do a little test. Imagine that this "fiend" again climbed with its clawed paws on your favorite sofa. You try to call the insolent person to order, but the home tyrant, grumbling and leaving marks on the upholstery (and on your nerves!), Continues to make himself comfortable.

Listen to yourself. To your feelings, emotions, thoughts.

What do you feel?

  1. you feel sorry for the dog!
  2. it seems to you that you are cruel towards the dog (obviously, it is more pleasant on the couch!);
  3. you are confused, insecure, disoriented; shrug your shoulders, don't know what to do;
  4. you feel guilty;
  5. you understand the dog's feelings: she is upset that she is being kicked out;
  6. Well, she wants to! (demands, does not obey, asks - underline the necessary);
  7. t seems to you that kind people do not do this.

If at least one item on the list has found a response in your soul, alas, you are not yet attracted to a leader. Keep working! You can, of course, "score" on all these norms of canine behavior. To spit on the state of the sofa, buy a stronger leash, give the cat to the village, and feed the pet in canvas mittens ... But is this a way out for a Man ?! A creature capable of thinking!

Remember those hundreds and thousands that are now wandering through the trash heaps. They were also taken to love. And then they kicked out. For some reason ...

You do not want a similar fate for the one you love now!


Let's summarize and outline an action plan. So what needs to be done so that our pet brings us only joy?

  1. Understand what you really want from your dog. What they are categorically opposed to, and what they are ready to allow.
  2. Feel the sense of leadership! It is most important!
  3. Strictly and decisively, firmly and consistently forbid the dog to do what you do not intend to tolerate under any circumstances. Resolve what is impossible, but actually possible. Do not pretend to be inhibitions!
  4. Be patient. Remember: being strict is not anger.

You will definitely succeed!

I wish you and your pets health and understanding!

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